Feb 5, 2014

My "Don't" List (No Rainbows Allowed)

Ashley Ludaescher Photography 2013

As bloggers, we tend to only show the best sides of ourselves. We're really good at shooting love and rainbows straight through your computer screen, making you think we haven't a care in the world, our marriages are perfect, and that our hair is always tame & shiny (hint: it's not). Sometimes I feel like blogs are joy ninjas…karate chopping a chunk of happiness away from everyone who clicks through. Bloggers don't mean to be that way (I sure as heck don't mean to be that way), it's just easier to write about the rainbows and puppy dogs…less easy to write about the boogers and bruises. Human nature, if you will. If you're anything like me, sometimes I leave a blog reading session feeling a little less awesome about myself than when I started. Comparison is the devil. I read about people getting job promotions, having clean kitchens, and being offered cool sponsorship campaigns and all of a sudden the green monster starts rearing its ugly head. WHY NOT ME?! WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH?! WHY DON'T MY PHOTOS TURN OUT THAT PERFECT? I WANT THAT ANTHROPOLOGIE DEER HEAD, TOO! Gross, gross things can happen to your brain from blog reading, it's true. Someone else's rainbows often make my rainbows seem insignificant.

The truth is, I'm guilty of mostly sharing the good stuff, too. Why? Well, would you read everyday if I constantly complained about how I love my landlords, but can't stand that they've been showing our apartment to potential buyers multiple times a week for MONTHS now and still haven't gotten a bite? How dare they ask me to keep my house clean and wear real clothes everyday so as to help them sell their house! It's a perpetual frustration in our household currently (and as I'm typing this, they're standing in my guest room, judging my curtain choices). Or would you like to hear me ramble on about how I'm fighting a losing battle with mold in our sunroom windows and I'm terrified of getting sick from it? T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-D. Or how about the fact that I'm insanely puppy-sick and missing my Tucker-dog so much that I've cried myself to sleep at night more times than I'd like to admit here lately. I know that stuff's real life…and should be part of my online story…but who am I kidding? Writing about our travel adventures is so much more fun! This year, though, times are a changin'…and I'm going to have to take a leap of blogging faith. 

Lots of changes are coming for me this summer and that inevitably means some changes for this blog. The direction I so happily went in with this space won't make sense for much longer. One can't continue to focus all their writing on happy travel when happy travel isn't as prevalent anymore. If I want to keep this space alive, I'll be forced to write more about me, more about everyday life, more about the military…and that's scary. I have many more thoughts about these changes and irrational fears I'm saving to spill in a future post, but today, I just wanted to share that I'm human. I put my pants on one leg at a time just like you do. I drop french fries in between my car seats just like you do (or at least I hope you do). For all the happy events and travels on this blog, there are just as many failures, disappointments, and worries. That adorable photo of me above? What you don't see is the giant wedgie I'm trying to hide (static cling plagues me…it's a problem). I hope to continue sharing more realness like that in the coming days. Maybe not all wedgie relate, but you get the idea. Don't be fooled, blog world. While I love to share my rainbows, I've got a long "don't" list, too. Allow me to explain…


+ I don't make my bed every morning. But I do love climbing into a freshly made bed at night. The irony is not lost on me.

+ I don't meal plan. I can't even pretend I do. But I do know my way around a take-out menu on those nights when cooking just isn't happening.

+ I don't think I'm the best at any one particular thing. But I do think I'm kind of sort of decent at a variety of things. Sometimes I'm not sure if that's better or settling?

+ I don't get dressed in clothes I'd allow people to see me in (on most days). But I do feel more productive when I wear something other than pajamas. Working from home is weird.

+ I don't view patience as a virtue I'm in possession of. But living in Europe has helped to cultivate a more relaxed way of life for me. Just kidding. Hurry up, everyone.

+ I don't like talking on the phone. Even more so now that we live abroad and I'm the one that has to call everyone back home so as to avoid fees. But I enjoy snail mail, text messages, and emails. Just don't call me.

+ I don't love the thought of moving and starting over every 3 years. It's annoying. But I'm really good at making friends and blooming where I'm planted. Three cheers for adaptability!

+ I don't read my bible or spend enough time in prayer as I should. But I'm really trying hard to fix this one. My faith is important to me.

+ I don't love that the majority of my life is controlled by the military and it makes me feel rebellious. But I'd do anything, give up everything, if it meant D was happy and I could be with him forever.

+ I don't like confrontation. It often makes me cry. But I'm still not afraid to speak my mind. Just prepare for me to cry the whole way through it. It's involuntary, I swear.

+ I don't write good well. I love starting sentences with "but" & "and" and using way too many ellipses (totally had to look up what the 'dot dot dot' is called). But I do pride myself in writing how I talk. Bad grammar and all.

+ I don't have a plan for what I'll do career-wise when we move back to the states. But I'm excited to explore my options. I think.

+ I don't have fond memories of middle school. In fact, I like to pretend grade 8 never happened. Some parts of high school I block out, too. But, I'm glad I went to school. That's something, right?

+ I don't go to the gym everyday…or even every other day. It's my biggest daily mental battle (I'm going to the gym, no wait, not going. But I should go. UGH!). But I do eat fairly healthfully and take my (gummy) vitamins…most days. Progress?

+ I don't understand people who don't use calculators. I hate mental math (and am horrible at it). But because of my bad math skills, I'm usually an excellent tipper. ;)

+ I don't love being alone for long periods of time. Deployments are pure torture. But I'm always surprised at the things I'm able to do on my own when D's gone.

+ I don't know how to draw, or paint, write calligraphy, or style food & outfits. But I can make a mean list and plan a heck of a vacation.

+ I don't really like hosting parties or get-togethers. Party planning makes me crazy. But I love attending them. Invite me! Invite me!

+ I don't know if I'll ever really feel ready to have children. But it doesn't mean I won't be happy when they come.

+ I don't feel completely comfortable in my own skin. But I do have favorite features...like my eyes and my hair.

+ I don't like reading period books or watching history movies…or really watching anything that might be relatively educational. Sometimes I feel like people look down on me for that. But I do love dystopian books, food documentaries, romantic comedies, and Step Brothers. Can we still be friends?

+ I don't buy the cheapest bottle of wine on the wine list. But I will eat a salad or order an appetizer as a meal to make up for it. Life's too short to drink bad wine.

+ I don't have everything figured out. But I get out of bed every morning, I give thanks, and I try.

Does blogger comparison ever get the best of you?
What are some things on your "don't" list?

81 comments:

  1. CASEY!!! I love you for this, love you! I feel like I'm in your boat of change right along side you. While you make the leap into the honest, more real, unknown, I'll be virtually holding your hand as I do as well :)

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  2. Wonderful wonderful post and I think you do a great job of balancing on your blog and your vlogs are always very down to earth. I also have horrendous grammar and the internet makes me feel very self conscious about it but I do nothing to fix it so I figure if people do not like they do not have to read my blog!

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  3. I love this post, Casey! I feel ya, so much easier to write about happy and/or helpful things and share pretty photos. It's not even because the alternative is bad stuff, but because my daily life is me laying in sweat pants in my bed on my laptop. Also, you can totally practice the mental math. Working at a pub has pushed me to the max on it as we just tally up people's bills in our heads, eek!

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  4. I love that you did this. You are so right about all of it... Ellipses and all. That damn green monster. When you become a mom there's so much more comparison happening it's stiffling.

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  5. A don't list, such a great way to get to know you a bit better! I am facing the same battle of how to start writing more about just me, it is easy to hide behind all my pretty travel pictures but I am working on it.

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    1. It's a tough balance, but eventually every blogger breaks out of their shell and finds that sharing the real stuff is just as good as sharing the pretty stuff. I definitely found that out today thanks to all of you guys! :)

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  6. The "don't ever compare" concept was really drilled into me as a kid--and I'm thankful for that now, because I really don't struggle with comparison. I'd rather be me, with my own blessing and my own problems, than anyone else, ever. However, the other side, the not really wanting to write about the harder stuff or the not so picture perfect stuff is something I deal with. Maybe out of laziness, maybe out of not wanting to tax my brain by writing about serious stuff. But this month on my blog I purposely focused on "adventure"--stretching myself, writing more adventurously than usual, which has already led to me writing what I believe about a controversial topic, and, today, posting one of our very NOT picture perfect home videos, so I believe my own challenge is making me a little more adventurous on my blog!

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  7. I'm saying "me too, me too, me too" as I am also in my pj's and wet hair from my noon shower HAHAHA!! It's freeing to be open and honest and to share "real life" with so many others. I also laughed at your rebellion towards the military :) Mine was in for 6 years and now works for Lockheed and we STILL are living the military life. Anyway, love this and it's always good to remind yourself that comparison is a happiness stealer! Jamie

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    1. HAHAHA awesome. I'm right there with ya, pajamas and all! You just can't get away from that military life, can ya? It's a tough, but good life. :) Thanks, Jamie!

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  8. I love it! Thank you for being so open. Also, you look great in that dress in the opening photo!

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  9. I also am an overly generous tipper due to poor math skills, Im glad someone else has that issue!
    Also I love the green dress, the fact that it makes such a good wedge hider is an unexpected bonus!

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    1. Hahaha yes! Wedgies for the win! :)

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    2. lmao so that was why you had your legs crossed. At least it wasn't atomic!

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    3. lmao so that was why you had your legs crossed. At least it wasn't atomic!

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  10. I've missed these posts from you so much! I mean, I love me some travel posts, but your words are what captivated me from the very beginning, so I'm looking forward to hearing more from you. As we've talked about it before, the green eyed monster is an evil thing and hard to overcome, but I think it's these real posts that help tame that jealous beast.

    Also, I'm pretty sure your hair is always tame and shiny :)

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  11. This is great - I think everyone suffers from some kind of blog or social media envy. I think it's just natural to showcase the best part of our lives, it's much more fun to write about than the crapola! I like getting a glimpse of the behind-the-scenes in people's lives, it makes them seem more real!

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  12. Great post and I totally feel you on the children thing. I'm not ready and slightly concerned that I never will be... and time's-a-ticking, eekk!! I'm also trying to get more honest, more real on my blog, but I'm just not all that great at telling people how I feel; I'd rather chat to Hubby or work it out in my own head :( x

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  13. We can definitely still be friends - I hate historical/educational movies too. If I'm going to watch a movie, I don't want to have to think about it. Confession: I hate musicals, too.

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  14. Love this post! Very real, very true, very raw. Absolute bliss. I feel the same way about a lot of the points on your list...and I mean A LOT. And I totally compare myself to every single person on every single blog. Human nature all the way, especially for us women, unfortunately. But we've just got to stay proud of who we are and support each other and that way (hopefully) the support will also be returned. xo from Switzerland! (Have you visited? I think I saw you were in Zermatt. I definitely recommend visiting Engelberg, where I live. It's insanely gorgeous! Feel free to email me if you need :)
    www.lipsticksandchocolates.blogspot.com
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    1. Absolutely human nature! Sometimes it's SO HARD to just be content with ourselves and what we have. A lesson that blogging makes evident, for sure! You made a great point about supporting one another. In the beginning of my blogging career…I really felt that strong support as I was trying to grow my blog. I'm not sure if it's just the direction blogging is going in these days, but the support from fellow bloggers is majorly lacking. We get so wrapped up in our own blog that we forget to encourage our fellow blogger! I'm totally guilty of this myself, but slowly working to remember I didn't get here all on my own. :)

      And yes, we LOVE Switzerland! We've been to Zermatt and Rheinfalls and enjoyed our time there immensely! Such a beautiful country.

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  15. Love love love this! I actually just found this print from Pen & Paint that says 'Comparison is the thief of joy'. I've ordered it for myself because I want that to be my motto for the year. I find myself comparing to others all the time, and I'm trying to stop this habit. I love your 'don't' list. Thanks for sharing and inspiring.

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    1. Thanks, Alex! That print sounds like something I should grab myself! It's an excellent reminder that while the grass may seem greener…chances are, it's not. :)

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  16. I love it when bloggers get REAL on their blogs. Thanks for opening up and being honest with your readers. It's nice to know you're not actually living a perfect, glamorous life. ;)

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    1. Perfect and glamorous, I am not! Although, wouldn't that be nice? :) Thanks, Belle!

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  17. I love this! I think comparison is a trap that all women (in and out of the blog world) fall into. I constantly feel like I'm doing something "wrong" if my kitchen isn't as clean as others or I make spaghetti for dinner AGAIN. I've recently started blogging (inspired mainly by you!) about our little life here in Wiesbaden. One thing I've tried to do is steer clear of perfect. I'm not perfect, and I don't want to come across as if I think I am. Plus, so many of your 'don't list' apply to me! Math? yuck. Real clothes? unlikely. :)

    Thank you for writing this!

    Heather

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    1. Aww Heather!!! You rock! Blogging is weird, isn't it? We love telling our stories, but it's SO HARD to keep it real and tell the not so good stuff, too. Sounds like you've already got a good handle on the balance of happy-go-lucky and real life! Go you! And yes, math & real clothes…ew. :)

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  18. I too get struck by the "blogger comparison" bug. Why do they get to travel to cool places and have a husband and a cute dog?! But then, I realize that my life is great, even if I don't always realize it. I have a comfortable house, a job that pays the bills, the opportunity to travel within the US, a college education, wonderful friends and family. I'll still be reading your blog even when you make the "big change" to life back in the States!

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  19. This is a great post and I love that your honesty wasn't one of the usual "well sometimes my Architectural Digest mid-century modern styled home has a few throw pillows out of place" posts that sound less than sincere. I started reading your blog originally because I wish I could travel more. I stayed because I like your voice and your honesty and feel like I can connect with what you write. Your Don't list just confirms it :) I am excited to keep reading and following your journey!

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  20. Yes, yes and yes. I totally know what you mean - we definitely get caught up in rainbows. I totally don't do a lot of your things too!!! (but I stink at vacations and am awesome at party planning...so plan me a vacation and I'll plan you a party?)

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  21. Thank you for the pajamas comment! My husband gives me a hard time about it like twice a week. Why wear jeans when the much more comfortable pajama pants are sitting right there?!???

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  22. I loved reading this side to you Casey (although I always enjoy your posts), you really hit the nail on the head with your list! I've been following your blog for sometime now and have just moved to a Frankfurt with my husband & his work....and you've inspired me to write my own (coming soon). Whilst life is set to change for you again with your move back home and you may not be able to be whisked away somewhere utterly amazing every month, I'm really looking forward to your blog evolving and reading about what happens next for you & your husband, as I'm sure all of your other loyal followers are!

    P.S. I'm in a similar situation as you in terms of putting off children to make the most of our 2 years here.....and also have the same fears as you (and I'm nearly 30! Eeek!) But I don't think anyone is ever really ready (until you're in the birthing suite!) :)

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    1. Aww thank you so much, Genevieve! That's so nice to hear!! You guys are really making me feel loved out in blog land. I'm looking forward to seeing how this blog evolves now so much more now than I was!

      And travel your heart out, girl! It's been the best decision of our lives, waiting to have kids until after this great adventure is over. But, we're excited to see what this next chapter holds, too! :)

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  23. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. A little honesty about life's blah moments is needed in blog land!

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  24. so... you know how you said that sometimes you leave a blog reading session feeling inadequate? only in this world would "not being able to draw, or paint, write calligraphy, or style food & outfits" be a personal failing. THE BLOG WORLD BE CRAY.

    (in other words, I hear you. rock on being you, rainbows or no rainbows!)

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  25. I think we are destined to be friends. Reading your don't list I kept hearing myself say "yup," to just about everything on your list. Your honesty is refreshing and nice to read. The crying during confrontation is totally me! This happened to me last week and I had no explanation for it. People looked at me like I was nuts, but it's comforting to know I don't suffer alone :)

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  26. Lol, 'Anthropologie deer head!', yes, my friend. I feel you. Here are my 'don'ts':
    - I don't get to travel as much as I used to because it's just hard with a toddler.
    - I don't post photos of my face because I want to preserve my privacy.

    The list goes on. Let me say this though about your don't regarding not being ready for kids. There's never a 'right time'. Being a parent can be the greatest challenge and joy you choose to undertake in life.

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    Life+1
    New Post: 3 Myths About the UK

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    1. Thank you for sharing your "don'ts", Jane! And this is what people keep telling me about children. The joy thing I get and look forward to…but the challenges are what keep me at arms length, for now. Hopefully I'll break through those worries sooner rather than later!

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  27. I love your honesty!!
    I definitely compare my food photos to other bloggers and wish I had more time to make my own better. I have to constantly remind myself that blogging isn't my full time job, that I work 40 hours a week and be happy with whatever effort I do put into my blog.

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  28. These are exactly the reasons why we could be friends! I want to grow my blog and have plenty of those green monsters hanging around right now! Also, I have horrible grammar but get complimented all the time by people because I write how I speak, which I think is way more personable! Even if it's mostly my friends reading it right now, ha! Keep on, keepin' on!

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  29. what a great post! I feel you on the comparison thing...I'm a really new blogger and I fall into the trap all.the.time! I have to say that I completely love your "happy travel posts" but that the posts where you are "real" (or less rainbow-y anyway) are also relatable and readable :). It's scary to put yourself out there, and to wonder how your blog will change as your life does, but I feel this post is a great example that you will be able to find something to write about and continue to bring others to read!

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    1. It's so hard not to succumb to the comparison beast. There are so many talented bloggers of all styles out there. But I'm slowly learning to take them all at face value unless they write about the real life stuff, too. So happy to hear my math and meal planning failures are worth reading about as well! There will be lots more of those tidbits to come. :) Thanks for the encouragement, Amy!

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  30. Yes it does! I don't workout as much as I know I should, but I'm trying to work on that when life isn't getting in the way.

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  31. Blogger comparison is the worst - I try very hard not to get caught up in it, because it can be poison for the soul for sure! Loved this list today, and can't wait for the things you have to share in the future. Even though there may not be as many vacations to write about, I have a feeling whatever you share will still be very interesting:)

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  32. Blogger envy is a terrible thing! I have it at least once a day! I really try to find one thing I'm thankful for every time I feel that way. I hate talking on the phone unless it's to my husband or my mama! You are so not alone and I applaud you for sharing this :)

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  33. I like this, I don't think I am organised and I don't think I am pretty but I do think I am not ugly................

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    1. FAR from ugly, Jo-Anne! We've all got our hang-ups, huh? Thanks for sharing! xx

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  34. I think it is so easy to compare ourselves to others, especially since social media being as prevalent as it is. We see things as people want to be portrayed. We may see some people have success "overnight," but in reality they struggled (but we wouldn't know because they didn't mention it).

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  35. What a great blog post. I love this so much. It's nice to see someone be real.

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  36. Love this list, Casey!! And I totally can relate to so many of these. I want to make my bed every morning...I love crawling into a made bed at night...but the bed NEVER gets made, even though it only takes a total of 3 minutes!!

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    1. Isn't that the weirdest thing? Loving a fresh made bed, but HATING to make it? I feel like such a lazy bum, but the thought of running from one side of a bed to the other tugging and pulling on sheets just makes me want to scream. Thank goodness I'm not the only one! :)

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  37. I can so relate to things like needing to read my Bible more, not using a calculator? Gasp!, Period books (although I'll watch the movies) and so much more! It's great to see that we're all kinda in the same boat!!

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    1. I'm floored that so many of you gals can relate! Makes me feel a little less strange and whole lot more awesome. hehe :)

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  38. It is so great when a blogger comes out and tells her readers things like this. You are so right about only blogging about the good in their world instead of it all. I also don't make my bed, & the delivery place I order from knows my voice and order. I totally understand! So glad you linked up with treat yourself today!

    xo. Kailagh

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  39. I love this. First of all, that dress is my #1 static cling article of clothing. I love it so much, but I feel like I'm constantly picking it off my legs and butt. :)

    I can relate to so many of those. The making the bed thing--me, me, me. And my husband doesn't like sheets tucked in so when I do make it, I only make my half! I hate talking on the phone. We moved to a new state for my husband's job a year and half ago, so the phone is important since my family and friends do not live in the same state, but I hate it! In a different twist, I love having parties and people over, but I don't have enough friends here to do so. Someday... (I have started a sentence with And and used an elipses in this comment.)

    Also, when did needing to write calligraphy become so important? Is it a cool hobby? Yes. Does it need to be something everyone does? No. Sometimes that is one of my least favorite thing about blog world. Why does everyone have to do and like the same things? Must everything be "styled", in chevron, with peonies, in perfect typography? (I do love peonies, but I almost don't want to because of the blog world.) That's my mini-rant. :)

    Keep on sharing your life, and I'll keep on reading!

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  40. Can I just say a big major, AMEN!? Seriously, you hit the nail on the head. And I'm right there with you on mental math--it is the bane of my existence. I love when blogs "get real" and I am excited to see how this space evolves as you do this year.

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    1. Amen and hallelujah, girl! :) Math can just go die. I hate it. It was my least favorite subject in school and now, as an adult, it's a subject of constant frustration. I think my iPhone calculator gets more action than my Twitter app does! Thanks for following along, Amy! I'm excited to see where this thing goes myself! :)

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  41. This is my first time on your blog but I LOVE this post. Thank you thank you! Your wedgie photo and not making the bed will have me coming back. I make my bed the moment before I get in it and it drives my husband crazy.

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    1. Well then, WELCOME!! So glad to know wedgies are a big selling point! Haha! And you make the bed just before you get in it? It's weird, but I get that. Do whatchu gotta do! :) Thanks, Jess!

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  42. Ahhh, love this post! I am with you on the having kids part! Ah. Sooo I think when you come back to NC, you, Tamara (Everything Happens for a Reason), & I should get together! :)

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  43. Okay, I immediately opened up this post and thought, "ooh, what a beautiful photo! I love that dress!" So I completely cracked up reading about the hidden wedgie. That's the perfect representation of everything you've said here.

    Even if your travel is less frequent, there are many other ways to keep the theme of "exploration" on your blog...trying new activities, interviewing someone about an out-there job or experience (or about their travel), reading an interesting book, etc. I'm sure you'll find a way!

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  44. It is so hard to share flaws, and especially to thousands and thousands of people! I applaud you for writing this post! It's so easy to get caught up in being perfect all the time and is nice to see that other people struggle with some of the same things I do every day. I love your blog because you keep it real! Thank you!!!

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    1. Thank you so much, Katherine!! It's definitely hard to be raw and vulnerable…you never know how it'll be received. And with so many family members and close friends reading my blog, it's even harder to write about real life for fear I might say something I shouldn't. It's a balance, for sure! Thanks for your encouragement!

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  45. I couldn't agree more and I just love that you came out and said some of these things. When I first started reading blogs, I used to follow all of the blogs that only featured beautiful, styled photos...and after a few months it just got SO boring. As I started discovering more bloggers, I found that I enjoyed the ones that talked about growth, family, adventures, things that worked for them and things that didn't, etc. If I see one more Kate Spade styled table top I'm gonna lose it!

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    1. Hahahaha I hear ya, girl! I do love looking at beautifully styled photos…they give me so much inspiration…but they also do a real good job of making me feel like I've got no "eye" for fashion or floral arrangements, ya know? I wish talent like that came naturally to me, but alas, it doesn't! Glad to hear you love reading more about real life than shiny styled things. ME TOO! :)

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  46. we all know you have perfect hair days every day casey, don't lie to us ; ) or at least let me believe in that hair fairy tale haha. and i can confidently say that i am right there with you on more than half of these and it makes me feel better that i'm not alone. especially in blog redirection. when you start and build your blog on international travel it can be weird to write about anything but. but you know everyone's still going to love your blog no matter what you write about dear : )

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  47. I really enjoyed this post - I've been reading your blog for a while now, but I truly felt like I could relate to you while reading this one. I too am an air force wife who works from home and struggles with some many of the things on your don't list - including the "making the bed" and "clothes I would never let anyone see me in". Especially lately - I'm going to go ahead and blame my laziness on winter and dark cold morning that just feel better when snuggling under your blankies. And hang in there with the move - I am a very type A person who learned very early on how to let go of being in control when it comes to all things military. And lets be honest - that's a lot! Thanks for sharing!

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    1. That's so nice to hear, Lauren! I'm definitely working towards sharing more everyday life things than just the fun travel stuff. :)

      The winter is THE WORST for making me lazy!! I totally, totally get that. And I'm trying my hardest not to be so impatient, but when friends keep sharing the assignments they've gotten (because they know someone who knows someone), I get a bit annoyed. Just tell us already! :)

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  48. I loved reading this post - as a fairly new blogger, its tough to decide what to post and what not to post. I also keep many aspects or moments of my life off my blog too. It would be interesting to create my own "don't" list! Also, your dress in this photo is absolutely gorgeous!

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    1. Thank you so much, Kristen! And I totally agree….it's always tough to know what to write and what to keep private. Sometimes it's a bit therapeutic to share hard things, but you also have to protect yourself and your feelings in certain situations. I'd love to hear your 'don't' list, too! :)

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  49. What a fantastic post! Thanks for being real!

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  50. Reading about how you're worried about your upcoming transition to living back in the States struck a heartstring. I so empathize as I went through this myself and to this day a piece of my heart lives in England. It's hard, but you will find a way to get back into the swing of things whilst keeping Germany with you. Hugs!

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  51. I LOVE that you shared a little bit more about YOU! Although I do love reading about your travels and sometimes feel jealous of how much you're getting to do while abroad, I enjoy learning about you because I can tell by reading your travel posts that you're a fun, interesting, and cool gal! There are more than a few things on your list that I can relate to, and I always get that warm feeling when I see others who feel the same way about things like: being bad at math, enjoying RomComs more than history, and believing that life IS too short to drink bad wine. If you haven't realized it yet-your readers are going to be happy to read about you and not just your travels.

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  52. Yes, yes and yes to many things on the list.I love t his!I often feel like a bit of a fraud when people are like ohmigodIwantyourlife while I'm thinking, no, you want my blog life, or my instagram life, you really don't want all of my life. TRUST me. I love that you're keeping it real. You can't have the rainbows without a bit of rain right?

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    1. Hahaha exactly!! Grass isn't always greener! :)

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  53. Loved reading this friend:) You are so so lovely, even if you did have a wedgie, hehe!! xxoo Katie

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  54. I really love that you shared this. I am excited to see where your blog goes, and I love that you are letting us in to more about you. Thank you!

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  55. I'm pretty new to blogging & I've come to the same realization as you! It's so hard to love your life when you're comparing every facet of yours to someone else's.

    I started reading the Resolution for Women and it was life changing! I've grown so much through reading that book & growing closer to God in the process. Thanks for the beautifully honest post!

    xoxo
    Amanda

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  56. I love your blog. This rings so true and I think it does for every blogger out there. Everyone loves rainbows, very few people like bruises like you said. But one thing I've discovered, is my more serious posts, are my most viewed. And as a reader, I LOVE a peek into a bloggers real life, struggles, dreams, missed/failed opportunities (as well as the accomplishments). It helps solidify that you're real (or is that just me?). Those are things, for me, that signify a connection (as well as similar music tastes) because I too have struggles.

    I'm currently in a (hopefully short-lived) "phase" where I am great at making acquaintances but not so great at cultivating real, long-term friendships. It's nice to know I have things (other than my favorite cup of coffee) in common with someone. It really helps me push through my initial "wall" that I've built up over the years.

    AND I love starting sentences with AND and BUT also... <-- and I just used an ellipse.

    AND I'm horrible at revealing my "bruises" first & should probably work on that. :)

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